Tuesday, 9 September 2014

Waiting for Denzel and George!

As little girls we dream of the perfect man, that knight in shinning armour, the prince...telling ourselves that when it's time he will come and sweep us off our feet. Then we grow up and realize "oops, wait a minute...where is he? Time is running out and he is still not here!" Life is staring right back at us in the face and many times in an unpleasant way too. And the next question is "But what is wrong with me? I am beautiful, got a great job, I hang out with great friends, I pray about it...so why am I still single?!"
This may come as a shock to you especially having read all those books that told you to set high standards and never lower them and don't get me wrong, I am all for that. The question I am trying to ask you here is if your standards are realistic or rather if your list is realistic?! Are you waiting for Denzel or George cos last time I heard, Denzel has been married for years and George has been taken (recently) oh and Brad Pitt is taken too!
Some people make very long and incredible lists and get disappointed when they don't find a man that meets up with their incredible requirements. For example you want a blonde guy and you meet a nice brunette guy will that stop you from giving him a chance? What if he earned less money than you or if he is a little shorter or two inches taller than what is on your list? Will that also stop you from giving him a chance?
While there are things that one can and "should" over look, there are also others that one shouldn't and "must not" over look or bend our rules for and that in my opinion is mostly character. Even if a guy meets all your requirements but he is say for example a drunk, a drug addict, a womanizer or (because this may matter to some) of a different religion or even not religious at all-I personally would not advice anyone to consider being with such a man. But then also there is the flip side of the coin-you must make sure that you yourself possess some of those qualities which you seek in a partner! You can't be an alcoholic or a drug addict and be hell bent on finding a man who does not drink at all. Remember, like attracts like. Also if you are looking for a religious man then it makes very little sense going to the clubs with the hope of finding one. There are the "right" places to find the type of people we are looking for.
Lastly, our own attitude matters greatly. In fact our own attitude is the deal breaker or maker. One mistake that many women continue to make which I hear guys talk about is "talking about the ex". It's okay to explain it once (not on a first meeting) but once you talk about it one too many times it becomes a total turn off. Don't spend precious time recalling all your heart breaks from birth till date and avoid complaining about everything for it is common knowledge that people in general don't like to be around depressing people.
My advice is to always wear a positive attitude and a smile. A smile always does the magic! I try to keep my posts short and to the point always and I do hope you have enjoyed reading this. Check back next Wednesday for another interesting topic. Until next time, do keep the hope alive!
What in your opinion should one over look or not over look when it comes to finding a partner?